8 New Ways to Motivate Your Child

8 New Ways to Motivate Your Child

One of the biggest questions that comes up for parents is:

"How do I get my child to do this?"

Whether it is play with a new toy, clean their room, get better at a hobby, watch what they eat or study for those exams, I've honestly found that motivation is something that has to come from within.  Now, parents can definitely "bribe" their children or use rewards to make it more fun (which sometimes work), but here are 8 ways that you may not have thought of to motivate your child on a deeper level so that you can both breathe easier:

1) Take a few deep breaths for yourself before you try to motivate them again.  You see, children really notice energy and if we are in an energy of desperation, frustration and resentment, it will only pull them away more.  I notice for myself that when I am in a calmer state of mind, things happen more naturally and I react much less.  And, also: make sure to approach them when they, too, are in a calmer state of mind, if possible - this enables a more open relationship.

2) Ask yourself if it is something that they absolutely NEED in their lives or that you want them to have.  Now, take some time to think this through about why they should have/do this and decide from there.  If it is a need, then I would explain the positive benefits of it in a way like this:

"If you take the time sooner to clean your room, then you have way more free time to do other things you love"

"Learning how to play the piano is something you love AND it'll probably help you focus more on other things, too, because you're practicing concentration"

"You know how you sleep better and have more energy the next day because you've been eating xyz? Well, let's see if we can make more ahead of time so that you always have it around!"

3) Think about how YOU, as a parent, motivate yourself.  Do you set a timer?  Make a to-do list? Get up early so that you have more time?  Now, before you say, "I've already tried of all of this with my child", try leading by example and see if your child catches on (remember, children notice these things!).

4) Make eye contact and sit down at their level because when we are at their level, it is also showing a loving bond and a form of positive respect. 

5) Help create a fun, relaxed environment: many times, we are more motivated by things that are fun and easy, so help your child (if they wish) to create a great environment to play, practice, study, eat, etc. with lighting, items, all the necessary things and a sense of privacy if that is a must. 

6) Ask them what they want and really listen so that you can also put on your thinking cap and come up with a creative solution - don't be afraid to search in-person or online together for the right thing or go through the steps of what to do.  

7) Show them what you would like for them to do.  Children (especially younger ones) love to play pretend and so, for example, if you want them to play more with a toy, you'll probably have to spend more time with it yourself.  As a teacher, I had the most fun sitting and showing children how to enjoy a new toy, practice, task, etc. and it helped me to also access my fun inner child

8) For older children: if it something academic, try helping them find a study partner or group to help them with the task at hand.  If it is something such as cleaning their room and it seems overwhelming, go through the tasks that are harder and break it down in terms of the time it will take and how they can make it more fun (play music when they do so or wear fun cleaning gloves, etc.).  

-I hope that these tips serve you - feel free to comment below or contact me through this website or on social media if you have any questions or comments!